tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post4228685852622951524..comments2023-08-26T05:33:51.938-04:00Comments on Cassidy's Quest: CheatedCassidyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.comBlogger27125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-9531341272300628102013-03-30T23:40:13.498-04:002013-03-30T23:40:13.498-04:00Very interesting blog post dear.. transition is ou...Very interesting blog post dear.. transition is our challenge and for all the succeeding generations after us.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-75583354629607206422013-02-01T20:21:28.064-05:002013-02-01T20:21:28.064-05:00Hi Rebecca!
I've had to deal with this sort o...Hi Rebecca!<br /><br />I've had to deal with this sort of thing my entire life, unfortunately. I was harrassed and bullied from first grade through... well, now. I know their type is everywhere, but this area is positively infested with them. I am *so* looking forward to putting this place in my rear view mirror.<br /><br />I am trying to focus on the overwhelming generosity with which I've been bestowed the past week. It is very humbling, but it gives me hope.<br /><br />Take care, Rebecca, and thank you!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CassCassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-35678251541118850732013-02-01T17:35:06.102-05:002013-02-01T17:35:06.102-05:00Cassidy, I was beyond saddened by what happened to...Cassidy, I was beyond saddened by what happened to you. I'd like to be Ms Optimistic and say it isn't "the norm", but I'm seeing this type of thing more and more. Please be very careful!!! This is a very hard life that's been forced on us. Even after completing your transition, and if you're lucky enough to completely pass and blend into society, it still haunts you all the time. I even have non-T friends that are being bullied by people who think they might be T, for whatever reason. T has become so public now, in many ways I think it's working against us, as far as allowing us to just live among the animals. Anyway, be careful, and I'm so happy you are overall ok. The kindness of strangers can indeed go very far, can't it?<br /><br />God Bless,<br />RebeccaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-2514112390491179372013-01-29T13:08:46.075-05:002013-01-29T13:08:46.075-05:00Hi Bryce!
Thank you very much. Those two idiots h...Hi Bryce!<br /><br />Thank you very much. Those two idiots have been sentenced to live here for the rest of their lives; I'd say karma is already taking care of matters. ;c)<br /><br />Also: congratulations again on starting HRT!!! I am so, so happy for you. But listen, girl: Updates! We want updates! lol Just teasing. I hope all is well, and congratulations again, hon!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />Cass<br />Cassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-37070959751011277892013-01-29T08:36:45.083-05:002013-01-29T08:36:45.083-05:00Cass,
I wish you a speedy recovery. Karma wi...Cass,<br /> I wish you a speedy recovery. Karma will pay those guys in the van a visit.<br /><br />- BryceAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14241035318709098697noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-63549234678056776882013-01-28T17:35:07.297-05:002013-01-28T17:35:07.297-05:00Hi Debra!
Thank you so much. And yes, I feel quit...Hi Debra!<br /><br />Thank you so much. And yes, I feel quite fortunate, both for how folks responded immediately after my incident and for the overwhelming support I have experienced online the past few days. It makes a gal feel very, very grateful. ;c)<br /><br />I'd like to add how much your blog has helped me on my journey. I only found a handful that really resonated with me when I was starting out, and yours was one of them. I was incredibly moved by your journey, and am thrilled to follow along as you experience living life as the woman you were meant to be. Thank you for sharing it, Debra.<br /><br />I was particularly moved by your recent post about your thoughts on religion. I went through a somewhat similar upbringing, albeit not as extreme as yours. As usual, you were eloquent, gracious, and thought-provoking. You are a wonderful writer.<br /><br />I wrote one of my patented rambling, semi-coherent replies ;c), then realized it was much too long to post as a response. I thought of perhaps sending it via email, but couldn't find an email address. I miss Seattle a great deal (I lived there for 10 years), and was hoping to soak up that Northwest vibe remotely. :c)<br /><br />Anyway, I would welcome the chance to say thanks, and to enjoy a large Tully's light roast vicariously. No worries if you are too busy, of course; just enjoying your blog is plenty.<br /><br />Thank you again, Debra! Take care, and enjoy those gorgeous Northwest sunsets! Oh wait... they don't return 'til July 5th. lol Well... enjoy the drizzle, I guess!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CassCassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-33590991338395716872013-01-28T17:04:32.606-05:002013-01-28T17:04:32.606-05:00Hi Karin,
What an awful experience! I'm so ha...<br />Hi Karin,<br /><br />What an awful experience! I'm so happy you were able to find the positive from such a trauma.<br /><br />My sister C was struck by a car when she was ten years old and very nearly died. I still have a mental image of my mother sprinting past me as I returned from an afternoon at the park with friends, unaware of what had just happened. <br /><br />My sister was very fortunate, awful as her injuries were. A neighbor saved her life by rushing her to the hospital in his arms, running barefoot through glass-strewn woods and a parking lot to do so. Doctors said later that she would have bled to death if he hadn't acted as he did. She still suffers the aftereffects to this day.<br /><br />Like you, one wonderful thing that resulted was that the entire neighborhood rallied around her - and us. When she was released from the hospital six weeks after the accident, they held a massive block party in her honor. Their kindness helped sustain her through the months of difficult, painful healing that followed. I'm glad you experienced something similar.<br /><br />As for Keystone... hmm. Hadn't thought of that! <br /><br />This *does* present a conundrum, however. It *is* during spring training, and I *am* a complete, total, utterly hopeless baseball geek of the first order. <br /><br />How hopeless, you ask? I've been watching games all winter from last year via MLB.TV to lessen the withdrawal pains. *And* the Seattle Mariners are my favorite team. Imagine voluntarily choosing to watch their feeble, inept attempts to swing the bat - in January, no less. I can see you recoiling from the keyboard in horror as I write this... lol<br /><br />Anyway, Keystone IS a possibility. Thank you for the brainstorm!<br /><br />And thank you for sharing your experiences, Karin, and for reminding me of the *true* lesson of this incident. Take care!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CassCassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-75494811244560517292013-01-28T16:49:52.468-05:002013-01-28T16:49:52.468-05:00Hi Andrea!
Done! :c) And I hope the Blogger greml...Hi Andrea!<br /><br />Done! :c) And I hope the Blogger gremlins allow my missive to reach you unscathed. <br /><br />Hugs,<br />CassCassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-60655933820178599352013-01-28T10:22:58.306-05:002013-01-28T10:22:58.306-05:00Cass,
I hope this finds you feeling better, even ...Cass,<br /><br />I hope this finds you feeling better, even on a dreary Monday morn in the NE. When I was twelve, I remember very little of being hit&runned by a group of Latino guys in a car and knocked unconcious. I was watching my friends roller-skate on a street in front of the local school on a nice Summer afternoon. Mostly a group of girls... it was realy nice. I couldn't afford roller skates (admittedly, we were Salvation Army kids), but I was enjoying watching my friends as I stood on the sidewalk/curb. The last thing I remember was hearing a car coming from my left - and a yellow/green garbage truck coming from my right and its driver yelling "look out!" I woke up a few minutes later I was told and rushed back to my house by my friends. My Mom was home and tookd me to the hospital. To this day I don't remember what happened or why such jerks would come up on a curb with their car and hit a 12 y.o. I really only remember enjoying my friends and their kindness afterward. Sadly, it was one of the last "girlish" times I had with them as they all moved away in the coming year or so.<br /><br />I'm really sorry this happened to you. I know how hard you worked on preparing for FE and what it all meant to you. Maybe you will be able to mae the Keystone Conference in March?<br /><br />Best,<br /><br />KarinKarin July1992https://www.blogger.com/profile/03976147729081731449noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-15802169454076046272013-01-28T08:12:16.224-05:002013-01-28T08:12:16.224-05:00Great post. Wow...experiencing the best of people ...Great post. Wow...experiencing the best of people right after experiencing the worst. I'm sorry your occasion was interrupted but I'm glad you're ok. Debrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06752910753527115712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-28463121870769700802013-01-28T07:39:23.944-05:002013-01-28T07:39:23.944-05:00Hi Cass,
So sorry to hear about your accident! C...Hi Cass,<br /><br />So sorry to hear about your accident! Could you please email me? When I try to email you through the blog, it opens Outlook, which I don't use.<br /><br />Thanks - Andrea - andreaziff@aol.com Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-25086103285829193912013-01-28T00:23:15.361-05:002013-01-28T00:23:15.361-05:00Hi Sarah!
You are *so* right in your descriptions...Hi Sarah!<br /><br />You are *so* right in your descriptions - particularly of the latter group! lol Unfortunately there is a healthy contingent of them near where I currently live. It is a lovely town, in spite of these jackasses; The lovely folks who helped me are far more representative. That said, I will be more than happy to put this entire area in my rearview mirror at some point in the hopefully not-too-distant future.<br /><br />Thank you for your comment, Sarah! Oh, and I absolutely *love* your hat in your profile photo! :c)<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CassCassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-27344380019867063192013-01-27T23:45:27.726-05:002013-01-27T23:45:27.726-05:00Cass,
I have experienced that as I have been goin...Cass,<br /><br />I have experienced that as I have been going down the road of transition, there are two classes of people who _really_ know us. Allies and a$$holes. There isn't much grey area between the two. Everyone else sees pretty much what they see. Sometimes they make a snap decision based on what they think they see and sometimes act on it. It's a dirty shame that nobody caught the tag of the van that assaulted you. But I'm really glad that you were able to come around and heal from your ordeal. I sincerely hope that in time you come to know more allies than...<br />Keep up the faith. The dividends are wonderful!<br /><br />Ciao!<br />SarahSarah Wilsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13018597739320720216noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-87822120886344496212013-01-27T21:48:52.454-05:002013-01-27T21:48:52.454-05:00Hi Renee,
Thank you for the comment. Feeling a bi...Hi Renee,<br /><br />Thank you for the comment. Feeling a bit better each day, I am happy to say. Although it would appear the X-Games are out for this winter. :c)<br /><br />== CassCassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-89376655212202070692013-01-27T18:53:56.350-05:002013-01-27T18:53:56.350-05:00Conflicted here!
On one hand, if things happened e...Conflicted here!<br />On one hand, if things happened exactly as you recount them, then my heart goes out to you, NO-ONE! "Deserves" that and I’m glad that you're (mostly) alright.<br /><br />On the other hand, I believe there is a reason for EVERYTHING the universe does, there are no "random" occurrences, and I've learned that if we are to understand those things and understand the universes "will" for us, we need to fully examine as many angles for these occurrences as are available to us.<br /><br />To simply see this as the universe "taunting" you and react by becoming more determined (I've found) is almost NEVER the right reaction. Better (I think) to try and understand what it's trying to tell you, even if that may not be what you want to hear (IE that perhaps transition might not be the right thing for you).<br /><br />My experience is this, things DON'T get easier, they get harder as "progress" is made, if this was difficult for you, then what awaits you further down the track may be life threatening, unbearable and in the end, FATAL!<br /><br />I'm not trying to be negative, just encouraging caution.<br /><br />Best to you for a speedy recovery<br />Reneehttp://www.0rthodoxtranssexual.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-980247156726507012013-01-27T18:09:34.905-05:002013-01-27T18:09:34.905-05:00Hi Calie,
Thank you for the kind words. It's ...Hi Calie,<br /><br />Thank you for the kind words. It's very sweet of you.<br /><br />This area is infested with this type of white trash, my hometown in particular. I've been picked on and bullied by them my entire life. <br /><br />If I had a dollar for every time some carload of brave young local lads - sorry, "bro's" - yelled out "f****t", or worse, as they drive by in Mommy and Daddy's new SUV and then speed off... well, I could fund my transition, and then some. People like that are precisely why I plan to move as far away from here as I possibly can once I'm full-time.<br /><br />I apologize if I sound bitter. But a lifetime of harassment wears on you, and sometimes it's simply too much. I've never once done anything to knowingly bother these idiots, but they seem to delight in tormenting anyone who doesn't conform to their narrow, hate-filled world view. <br /><br />On the other hand, I take solace in the knowledge that *I* will leave them, and this place, far behind. *They,* however, will be spending the rest of their miserable lives right here, with each other. Somewhere, Sartre is chuckling to himself. :c)<br /><br />Thank you again, Calie! I promise I'll respond to your email soon!<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CassCassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-29707163324382803702013-01-27T12:49:07.372-05:002013-01-27T12:49:07.372-05:00Cass, you poor girl!
This was a hate crime and ...Cass, you poor girl! <br /><br />This was a hate crime and I do hope whoever did this to you suffers the consequences. <br /><br />I hope you heal quickly. You must feel so alone right now. I wish I could just come there and hug you.<br /><br />We must all look at the bright side, and here it was how that beautiful couple treated you, how the hospital personnel treated you, and how the hotel treated you.<br /><br />Get better soon, Cass, and go out there and be the woman you were meant to be.<br /><br />Calie xxxCaliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280127011882954777noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-16457033457374989032013-01-26T14:08:17.955-05:002013-01-26T14:08:17.955-05:00@ Faline: Thank you. That *is* a real law, believe...@ Faline: Thank you. That *is* a real law, believe it or not. When I collapsed last fall, both my sister (an ER nurse) and my father (a retired police detective) told me about it afterwards. I texted my sister about it earlier today. She was working, but said I didn't *quite* have it right. If I think of it, I'll post her reply. <br /><br />Also, the doctor was VERY nice; she was about as unthreatening as possible! lol Obviously I misrepresented the conversation. Sorry.<br /><br />@Jeanie: Hey!, no fair making me want to cry! :c) Kidding. Thank you very much; you are totally right. I'll remember that. <br /><br />Also, the boot is pretty cool! I'm used to them, given my track record. My ankle sort of has a mind of its own when I set it free, which leads to some interesting-but-kinda-gross photo opportunities ("And this, boys & girls, is a 90 degree angle..."). But with the boot on I can actually walk around without much trouble. My usual three hour walk is on hold though. Sigh.<br /><br />@Kristina: Thank you. I *was* very lucky. My sister told me the same thing. And she would know; she was hit by a car when she was 10 years old and very nearly died as a result. She still suffers aftereffects to this day. I got off relatively lightly.<br /><br />Thank you all SO MUCH for the kind thoughts. They are helping immensely! Love you all!<br /><br />Mega hugs,<br />CassCassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-64468401620031948712013-01-26T09:48:12.410-05:002013-01-26T09:48:12.410-05:00OMG, I can't believe that someone could do suc...OMG, I can't believe that someone could do such a thing. I am happy to hear that your injuries were relatively minor as things could have been so much worse. Take care of yourself and I hope that you have a speedy recovery.Kristina Nicole Devereauxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09048279867265327136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-28818896544270488262013-01-26T08:24:43.297-05:002013-01-26T08:24:43.297-05:00Hi Cass,
So sorry about all that has happened. I ...Hi Cass,<br />So sorry about all that has happened. I believe that for everything lost, there is something found. What you lost in not being able to attend something that you set your heart on, has been replaced by something you found...that some people do care and care deeply and love you for who you are. And perhaps that experience and lesson in the end is more valuable on your quest in the long run. Another hurdle in life, another big step forward. Heal well and fast for the body takes care of itself. But often it is others that heals our minds.<br />Jeanie<br />P.S. Take good care of that boot, too. Love 'em (I'm a doc)<br />jeaniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16711579456369089888noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-72050845491581307032013-01-26T06:25:22.646-05:002013-01-26T06:25:22.646-05:00Sorry to hear this.
What is this new law which al...Sorry to hear this.<br /><br />What is this new law which allows doctors to confiscate drivers' licenses? That doesn't sound right. I Googled around for that and couldn't find anything. It's also kind of weird that the doctor would threaten you with that supposed law right after you've been intentionally hit my a driver. Something doesn't seem right there.Falinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07006373893076810290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-6042318263183595192013-01-26T03:27:20.382-05:002013-01-26T03:27:20.382-05:00Glad that you weren't injured any worse than y...Glad that you weren't injured any worse than you were and that there was someone around to help you. I dread to think what state you'd have been in if you'd had to wait for the emergency services to come in those temperatures. <br /><br />Idiots like the ones driving the van shouldn't be allowed near anything larger than a toy car, and even then under supervision in case they hit someone with it.<br />Jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08410714441581467404noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-5568054811081197452013-01-26T01:21:41.546-05:002013-01-26T01:21:41.546-05:00Thank you, sweetie. Now go to bed!!! :c)
Hugs,
Ca...Thank you, sweetie. Now go to bed!!! :c)<br /><br />Hugs,<br />CassCassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-83290547459740632302013-01-26T01:18:15.530-05:002013-01-26T01:18:15.530-05:00I know it was a great disappointment but the stren...I know it was a great disappointment but the strength you have shown will get you through transition more than any convention. Glad you are still in one piece and not seriously injured.<br /><br />Hugs,<br /><br />April<br /><br />Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02991391285746762005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3348070062651753968.post-4561468166508268302013-01-26T00:46:25.168-05:002013-01-26T00:46:25.168-05:00Sorry - Carolyn, not Caroline! I blame the painkil...Sorry - Carolyn, not Caroline! I blame the painkillers. :c)<br />Cassidyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10765803435751308973noreply@blogger.com